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My hubby as you all know is 6 yrs older than me. Yesterday he told me that he is both emotionally and mentally ready for kids. The only thing he is waiting for is for us to be more financially stable and for me to be ready. So for me being 23 I heard that and went "AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH". I had always seen myself waiting until I was about 27 to have kids so by that count I still have 3 and a half years before I want to start a family. Rob's already 29 so of course he's ready. I just am not. I am scared. Children annoy me mostly. I mean I have been a daycare provider/nanny for almost 10 years and I do love it, but I get to go home at night. I do want to have kids I just want to enjoy marriage for awhile. I like my office and my alone time and my hubby time. I like putting work first for the most part. I actually love my job, I also want to finish college so I will be able to work in my field which is of course limnology (biology and chemistry of lakes and streams).
Then again I can't help picturing my office turned into a nursery. A crib with a canopy over it. I can't help seeing a rocking chair in here, a sleeping infant, a tired but happy me rocking her. I just know I have time to make that dream come true. I know way too many of my friends who had kids before 22 and they all say the same thing, that they don't really KNOW their husbands as anything but a father and they wish they had waited a bit more before diving into motherhood.
Is it really so bad to know I am not ready.
 
 
 
 
 
 
Hey-
It is not bad for you to know. Its BETTER that you know you're not ready.
My hubby and I are talking about kids. We agreed that we'd try sometime in the next 3-12 months, but he's wanting the closer end of the deal and I want to wait till sometime early next year. It takes me a while to get used to things like that.
But, something we have realized is theres' never a perfect time to have a child. And there are a million reasons why not to have a kid or to put it off. But there's one big reason to have a baby-the love you share.

Good luck!
Hey I think its a great thing, but only if you ARE ready for it.
I only know my husband as a father, hes been that since the day we met.
But I believe you fall even deeper in love with your husbend the first time you see him rock your baby to sleep.
Thats just my personal outlook, and experience on things.
I love Caleb even more than I could have before, just because now I know how much he truely loves both of us.
Being a mother is a long, tiring, thankless job...
that I would do again and again.
Its nothing but wonderful I promise you.
but really, if you wait until your ready, you'll never have kids.
Do what feels right in your heart.
Its a beautiful thing :)
Were working on number two :))))
Hope everything works out exactly how you want it to.
Miss you guys
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